Symbolic or spiritual love?

Have you ever tasted a symbolic love or even experienced an exemplifying spiritual love? Unceasingly waiting for someone to come online and being on fire all the time he is there or even expecting a message from someone with its soothing and comforting, soft , subtle words and felt safe and peaceful. Love is so sweet, it is the language of feelings and marvelous emotions that cannot be conveyed but rather savored as they make you plunged in a marvelous world that resembles a fairy tale. If you ever have experienced or witnessed such an experience! 

 

It is not always so delightful as it may seem and the Lady was lost. Indeed, her symbolic love story that she took for a fairy tale turned out to be a hellish and a frightening nightmare. Virtual or online love story isn’t very common indeed. It happened one year ago, A humble, courageous, brave, ambitious, persistent , Muslim woman tied to religious beliefs and principles and who unwittingly and foolishly felt in love with a man that she thought was modest, tenacious, stubborn, placid and kind sort of man. 

At first, when she felt under his spell, she thought that he was a poor teacher but ambitious as she always believes that “being rich isn’t about having pockets full of money but rather a touching heart full of love, faith and peace of mind”. The love she felt for that man was more spiritual than physical. The fact that the Lady met him on a virtual social network was very conveying. Feelings and emotions were felt from a far, they plunged you in an everlasting, magnificent delightful world where all that counted is savouring and enjoying the very moment and forgetting about your past and present worries. How could we as human beings love someone without seeing, touching, feeling his love and hugs and enjoy the soft tenderness of his whispers and kisses around us? Hugs! Hugs! These were only ephemeral, nonsense, senseless, waffling words that she became reluctant to hear I miss you! I miss you! I want to see u! only trivial pretty words. She needed actions because love without actions means nothing and trust without proof is useless. She finally realized that her love was rather spiritual than physical and that she was mistaken to be driven in such a hellish and devilish adventure after all it was only love felt from one side for the wrong kind of man .A man who proved to be the incarnation of Lucifer on earth, a symbol of darkness of evil attracted by impurity and desire hallucinations, a kind of psychologically wicked and disordered guy. All he was interested in is taking advantage of her frailty, purity and humbleness and deviating her from the straight path and spiritual belief.

Is it good to marry a person you have not any romantic feelings for?

What do you do if you have to marry a person, who is not in romance with you?  

Suppose there is a person, who is wealthy, intelligence and average looking, but you don’t have any romantic feeling about the person. Under certain circumstance you may need to marry this person. what do you do in a situation like above?

How deeply romantic feelings are involving for successful marriage? What would happen if you married this person? 

Well…as I described in an earlier article, romance does give a real push for very beginning in a relationship or even in a marriage. In any happy marriage, intimacy is enjoyed, and it needs to be there. But it’s not enough for long lasting relationship. Gradually we need more and more valid reasons for keep this relationship continues. So in hand, if you could start a relationship or marriage without a romantic feeling for someone, we cannot exactly say, this not gonna workout. It depends on what you do in the relationship. If you can transform this person into the character you want them to be, it will be a good reason for have a feeling about him or her. Other major thing is try to avoid being judgmental and don't give up on all the efforts you make to change them to what you yearn for. Or accept them as they are. Be understanding and start, looking carefully at the qualities that attracted you to this person, You are likely to get the spark where it has been hiding.

So on the other hand, though you try hard to change that person, how you want them to be or accept them as they are, it may not work due to lack of other reasons. And don’t forget that romantic feelings are refreshing the relationship time to time. On this condition, Husband or boy friend feels a special or unique attachment to his wife or girl friend because of the attraction he has towards her and the same applies to the wife or girl friend. This not happens without a romance. Hence, romantic attraction must be there in a progressive and promising relationship besides the other qualities. Not only that, but also if you not have any romantic feelings about them, it’s naturally start failing to give that person their marital due (basically Physical requirement) eventually forcing them to go outside marriage to seek and get what you are denying for them.

However, one day if you have to marry a person, you don’t have any romance for, effective communication is a must. Let your partner know how you appreciate every effort they put forth to make the marriage work, and lovingly help them overcome the barriers you are seeing.

Get dress for success

There are many of reasons why we need dress well in our everyday life, it’s no matter what we are doing or where we are going. Nobody likes to just wake up, then having a bath and go out in night dress, even we don’t like to stay in the home in our Pajamas. 

So… dressing well is really changed our day and mood. Here are some excellent reasons why we need to dress well, explaining why we should but put in the extra effort to look our best in everyday life.

1.Dressing well, Makes a Good Impression

Making a good impression is always important, more importantly for very first meeting with someone. And it's one of the best reasons why to dress well too. When we look good, people notice us very soon. If you meet someone in sweatpants, they will just assume you were too lazy to get dressed up. But if you meet someone in a cute outfit that expresses who you are, they will notice the effort you put into making yourself presentable.

2. It Will Give You more Confidence

Believe me; it will defiantly make yourself confidence about you. It’s because with a Good outfit, you feel a terrific comfort in your inner self. It makes you as a perfect human being.  Nothing feels better than walking down a crowded street in an outfit that makes you feel awesome. A cute outfit might be just the confidence boost you need to take on the day.

3. Getting Compliments for Your Outfit Feels Awesome

See, when we wear a new outfit for first time, our friends will look in to that and they pay much attention to us. So feel this way in everyday…it means we don’t have to wear new cloths in everyday, but good, stylish out fits. So everyday we’ll get more and more compliments about our look. As soon as we get a compliment on our outfit, it’s like nothing can ruin our good mood for the rest of the day.

4. You Never Know Who You Will Run into or what

Worst case scenario: You may run around in sweatpants and you see your ex-girl friend with his new handy boyfriend. Now imagine that same scenario, but instead of sweatpants, improper dress you are wearing a stylish, cute outfit that makes you feel amazing. Whether it’s an ex or a beautiful new girl, you never know who you will run into. So it never hurts to always look your best. Feeling good about yourself is an excellent reason to dress well.

5. You Can Express Yourself

And another way of expression your self is the cloths, which you ware. It’s like a mirror of your feelings. Your style will tell you how sweet you are may be, or how modern you are, or maybe even your life style. So why limit yourself to wearing something boring and bland when you can show everyone who you really are and wear something that expresses you?

6. It Will Keep You Productive

It is so easy to fall asleep or feel lazy when lounging around in a pair of sweatpants and a sweatshirt. And sometime you have cover yourself due to this unclean outfit. But when you are dressed to impress, you will be more motivated to get work done and go to forward. So…keep remember, if you ever have a big day ahead of you, get dressed up and you won’t be able to help but be productive. A big boost in productivity? Just another reason to dress well.

7. Feel Fabulous for every day

Most of the people dress like superstars for special occasions? Actually every day is a special day. You deserve it. and don’t save your beautiful outfits for few occasions. Be good in everyday. Treat everyday like special day.  

The bottom line

But at last, I tell you what? Wearing fare out fits is a cost thing. It will always depending with your income and the economy. But, I saw that many people buy clothes for two or three times for a year. So it means you buy few cloths at one time, so you have to spend big amount at one time. Actually it feels to your pocket significantly, if you are in low income. But don’t buy cloths in a schedule; just go to boutiques with your friends, at least once a month. If you see something special for you, just buy it. In that way you can stop spending big amount at a one time.  

Love, Lust Or Infatuation

You are in love with some one? Or is it only a lust?

OK…lots of people think they love their partner, but sometime its not love actually, it’s lust. So how do you recognize whether it is a love or lust or infatuation?

Well, let me put it this way…in movies girl meets a boy, and due to some matter, they walked away for a little time period, then they realized about each other  and they marry. It’s like fairy-tales, then they happily ever after. At that manner, we lead to believe love is amazing and everything happened in between guy and a girl is wonderful, and it’s the true love.

Actually what happens in real life? if you have a close look, this is how it goes. Guy meets a girl and starts dating, then have full of fun with her while trying to have some fun with other girls too. Meanwhile girl is trying to keep her guy with herself. Or girl is flirting with other guys too, may be in office, or the college. So is this type of affairs are really love? Or fun with lust?

So…having a strange feelings for someone can make the decision, that "you are in true love", for a moment, when you are actually in lust or infatuated. Here's the important facts, about infatuation, lust and love:

Lust is only a physical attractions and it last only for fulfill the physical needs. It totally depends on the appearance. With lust, you never respect the person, you need him or her only for fulfill your desires.

Infatuation is an intense feeling which helps you to imagine you are in true love, but not in reality. In here you have strong feeling about your crush and, you believe she is the person that you want, but actually she is not. You try to acknowledge by force, to your subconscious that she is the one for you, whether she is bad or good. in shortly, you trust her and you love her no matter what, its because you think it’s true love with mutual understanding.

So above both feelings are not lasting long, at some point you realize that it’s not love. Then you think that love is painful and it’s very hard. After this happened, few realize it’s not the love but the lust or infatuation. Others remain in same circulation, so again and again they go after lust and infatuation and get hurt themselves.

But when we are in real love, will have good intense feelings for a women or a man, and be attracted and connected to him or her on the level of mind, body and the soul.  Here are some clues about the real love.

Love is also a feeling. But this is not physical feeling.  And this feeling comes with lots of other things too, mercy, understanding, sharing, tenderness, dedication, hope, trust and the respect of course. When you feel that way, it will put a strong foundation for your relationship. And it will long last.

So it’s better to ask from yourself now, whether you really love your partner or it’s just a lust or  otherwise, Infatuation?      

Love & Life

My name is George Stevenson. I met Cathy Lawry in the High school. She was a pretty girl. Her eyes were in blue color and had a nice long blond hair. We were in same age too.  I was fascinating about her and we became very good friends in months. After one year of friendship, we became lovers. Cathy meant everything to me, since then.

After I came out the High school, I had to find out a job. I did many jobs but I couldn’t find a fare job for me. So...I didn’t have money in my pocket.  But Cathy never said a word about it. She always did courage me for find a job. At the time, I noticed that couples of rich guys were tailing on Cathy. But she never gave a even any damn look about them. She was always stick with me. I was really happy about her love. That was the only thing I got.

Time passed, I knew that without a job, I’m gonna loose Cathy soon. However I got a sales job in a super market, where I found my destiny.

There were three other sales guys were there, and they were practicing as a music band. I was born in talent for guitars. Eventually we set up our band and got chances to play in parties. It didn’t passed years; our success was rising up day by day. We quite from our sales jobs and played full time. Once we got a TV show and we hit the jackpot.

There after nobody can stop our progress. Our band was populated rapidly. All this time Cathy was nearby me like my shadow. Money was coming to me continuously. I spent more and more money for her.

But day by day, my life was changing; I got much money, lots of friends, and the girls. Most of the nights, I was drunk. Eventually Cathie’s association was a headache for me. I wanted to stay away from her. Because, I felt Cathy ruins my privacy. I met new girls every night. I didn’t want to stick with Cathy any more. But she came to me almost every time she could.

One evening she came to my apartment, on that day I was with another girl. But she didn’t blame on me. but she just asked,

“Why…why this? What happened to you now?”

I felt much guilty; I thought she may jump on me like a devil. But she didn’t do that. I felt a shame on me. I felt guilty about me. Finally I got angry about myself. But I exposed my anger on her…

“Bitch…you don’t need to fingering my life anymore…let me live my life alone…get lost you bitch…!!!”  

She left me forever on that day. I didn’t see her again. it was so ease to my mind. After one year, I left Munich. I came to Nuremberg and my life was a heaven since then. I got all most every happiness, there. Girls, money, Drunk nights, I thought this is the life.

Life was going like a fairytale, for another eight years. One night I felt very uncomfortable for my body. So I got some tablets and energy drinks like the other days. But it was continuing for two three weeks. Eventually, I got fever too. Some time I sweat all over my body in nights. I felt that my body is not same any more. Finally I visited a doctor.

There, I got my life’s shocked news. I was infected by HIV. In a second, I realized everything. But I was too late. 

Eventually my body and Soul were decaying. I was abandoned by my music band so easily.. My friends abandoned me. but still I got money to spend.  I used to medicate every day now. But I knew that in very near future, medicine cannot live me anymore. day by day I reached to my death. Sometimes while I was just sleeping on my bed, I memorized my past. There, I felt "Cathy", as one and only my own angel. She full filled all my life. My inside was filled with her memories. She was the one and only thing, in my mind. Then I realized what was there in my subconscious. But everything is now gone.

One day, while I was sitting on my bed, in the nursing room, I saw that my angel was coming to me. Though I didn’t see her for last 10 years, it didn’t difficult to recognize her pretty face. 

“She is  more beautiful than before” I thought to myself. 

But now, I’m just a living Skeleton. She came and stand in front of me. I couldn’t stare her eyes straightly any more. I tuned my head down.  I felt, my eyes were getting wet, eventually that wet became tear drops and they were oozing one by one on my cheeks. Suddenly I felt something run through my hair, in seconds I remembered warm feelings of her hands, on my head, after ten years of time. she was running her fingers through my hair. I couldn’t stay still anymore. I just hold her hands in my hands. There, I felt the wedding ring on her left hand’s ring finger. I screamed and cried a lot. So... her too. There was no more to talk. Silent was so good, rather than making sad by talking any more. She left me after few minutes and promised to visit me again, as soon as possible.

When she was leaving I felt that, there is no more strength to live, in my body or soul. 

After 13 days of the above event, one morning, a nurse found Georg's death body, on the bed in the nursing room. His diary was found inside his pillow cover.

This was the love and life story of “George Stevenson”. 

Smart phones may ruin your relationship

Are you spending so much of time with your Smart phone or a Laptop, Rather than spending enough time with your partner? 

It’s true technology will be connected people and it will make easy for things. But the same time, it may be disconnected you from your most loved one too. In simply Smart phones can have an negative effects for close relationships. 

When you have a Smartphone or Tab with you, you always connect to outside world and apparently you don’t have any private time for your own things. Specially, when you are with your partner, if that phone ring or gets an alert, definitely, your mind and body detract from your partner for a while. Sometime this happen when you are discussing a critical event of your lives. Further, I experienced some couples, when they are flirting, one is using smartphone and play games or chat with other friends too. So the point that I want to make here is, that smart phones, tablets can distract your attention from the present moment, and its not good for healthy relationship at all. Further researches of the University of Essex shows, people who engaged in a private discussion, when a smart phone near by, they are presenting lower relationship qualities and lower attention or concern, for their partners.  

 

What is the other main reason which effect to a relationship from a smartphone? We know that we all can connect to social medias through the mobiles phones. It means we always touch with our friends. Sometime there are may be Ex-Partners among this friends, Co-workers, or some special friends. when you make close contacts each and every day with them,  may easily lead your mind to them rather than your partner for sure. At least for part time special relationships. Actually this happens without knowing to you. This will worse, when you get a bad situation with your loved one. Coz’ rather than you try to sort the problem with your partner, you may criticize your partner with them. So it will lead to another problem.

So all the above reasons may lead to, unhealthy relationship with your partner, upon misusing your smart phone or Tab. 

So actually this not means, you must put your smart phone to the ditch, specially when you need it for your day today works. So here are some tips to use technology wisely, and to make your relationship better.

Just set it aside. When you in a dating, it’s better to switch off your phone, or you can put it in to your bag, or a pocket with silent mode. Think that, world will not end, if you cant check your e-mails or social media updates for two or three hours. And keep them shutting down during the night time. It will make your mind relax too, rather than hearing any rings or alerts sounds when you are making love with your partner.

Use social media wisely. Try not to express your private thoughts, and everything on social medias. I know that, there are lots of people, giving impressions to other that they lonely, still they have a good partner. So it will definitely attract others attention to you, specially if you are a girl. Never keep close connection with your ex, on social medias. But, if you really need to connect with your partner on line always, with the privacy and without disturbing from others, use twocup.com or appbetween.com. those programs will allow you to have more privacy with your photos and stories away from the prying eyes from the others. 

 Make a sexy connection. You could use the Smartphone technology for add some spice to foreplay. As an example, you can send a sexy voice massage or you can say some sexy, fantasy story that you want to share or do with your partner for next evening or on next holiday. 

Keep remember that smart phones and other technology gadgets may give real negative impacts for your relationship. But using them wisely you can give support to your relationship and you can start to feel more connected to your partner than ever.

Can a boy and a girl remain as best friends forever?

you may have different answers for this question. Those answers surely depend on the experience that we have in our lives, I mean real lives.  But if we can analyze little by little the friendship between a girl and boy, at least, we may close to a fair answer for this s question.

Lets we think about a good friendship, between a two boys or a two girls, for a moment.  They are best friends because, simply they “like” each others. They like each others, it’s because they may have almost same feelings about things; they may have almost same desires about things, or they may help each other very much, they may have same interesting about things….so on.  So that’s why they like each other.  

OK...Now let’s we think about good friendship between a girl and a boy.  They are also best friends; it’s because same as above reasons, very simply.

 

So my questions are bellows. If this girl and boy are very good friends,

1. Can this girl and boy best friends, spend a night in a same room on a same bed together?
2. If this girl has legs pain after very hard day, can this boy massage her legs?

I asked above those silly questions, It’s because…

If these best friends were two boys or two girls, they can do this easily. But, boy and girl best friends cannot do this very simply. So… if that boy cannot massage his best girl friends legs, on a single bed, in a room, still are they able to call them as best friends?

However, honestly, if you still can manage this situation in the friend zone, it means, at least one person is killing his or her desires for sake of friendship. It doesn’t mean you don’t have any love or passion, romantic feeling about her or him. But you are overcoming the true feelings.

Further, if a girl and a boy best friends are keeping friendship better, but still one person wants more than a friendship, obliviously. But scare to break the friend zone and say “I love you”. Coz’ Consequence doing so may not healthy. So he or she stops the true feelings for sake of “Best Friendship”.

Sometimes though you love your best friend, you don’t want to, let her know that, your feelings, coz’ it may end of the friendship too. You scare to lose her, if she refuses you. So you are covering your true feelings of love and passion with an agony, so… And thinks, it’s better to have at least friendship rather than loosing whole thing.

Falling in love with your best-friend.

Falling for your best friend is probably the easiest thing that could happen. I mean how effortless would it be to fall in love with someone you know so comfortably close, someone who is by your side during good times and bad, someone who’s true to you and brings out the best in you. The coolest part is, you never have to mask your feelings; you never have to fake. A true friend would see through every lie and would notice every time your mood flickers. And sometimes, when you realize how much they mean to you, you trip, and you tumble, and you fall; you fall in love. Just like that! The unthinkable happens in a fraction of a second and you are left helpless.